When I announced that I was specializing in birth photography Molly and I met up for coffee at our favorite local coffee shop, Rise up. She had just gone through a doula training with Being and Born and wanted to learn a little bit about birth photography too! We chatted for such a long time about birth and the Eastern Shore and a million other things.
When I started this series it was perfect timing to interview Molly, as she just joined THRIVE and was making her own business set in stone! So without further ado, here's what Molly had to say...
Molly: I just became a doula, I started in August of 2020 after seeing Chloe's post on her Being and Born page about doula training. I had been following her from when I had my son in July 2019, I started following all the birth people on the Eastern Shore. I thought that sounded awesome, so I reached out and signed up!
I'm still working for my husband's nonprofit, we do youth sports events, mostly girl's volleyball. And I'm the marketing director for that. I'm not sure which is the side hustle for the other.
Me: I guess time will tell! So what do you think made you see that post and want to sign up? What made you want to be a doula?
Molly: I think a lot of it is I had more of an alternative experience with my son. I had a home birth and a midwife. I looked into having a doula but ultimately decided not to since my midwife was a trained doula I didn't feel like I needed an additional person. I did a lot of research on my own and having a midwife helped provide a lot of information that I would not have gotten if I was going to an OB. So being able to provide that information to people that either doesn't have the opportunity to have a home birth or they're uncomfortable having a home birth, I want to make sure everyone has as much information as possible.
Me: What do you think is your favorite part of being a doula?
*Molly started her training amidst the global pandemic and therefore hasn't been able to attend a birth in person. She has helped virtually for a couple of families as well as some postpartum doula work. I'm hoping to get an updated interview after she's been able to attend some births in person!*
Molly: With doulas, a lot of people put emphasis on the birth part, but there's so much value in the prenatal support that I'm really liking that so far. But I mean, I can't wait to experience my first birth in person. I'm sure it's going to be this magical experience. I guess I'm looking forward to experiencing the experience of birth without being the one giving birth!
Me: Yeah, it's awesome. So, if you could change one thing about the maternal standard of care, prenatally or postpartum, what would it be?
Molly: So many things! Prenatally, giving accurate, factual based information to not imposing fear and the patriarchal standard of giving birth. To postpartum...postpartum is horrible in America. Only one visit is just not OK! With a midwife it's better, I had a day follow-up, a week follow-up, and then a 6-week follow-up. And my midwife was on call 24/7 postpartum if I had any questions. So it is possible it's just, the business of giving birth that's... enraging.
Me: Yes! So, what is one thing that you want every woman to know?
Molly: Do your research. You have all the power. Knowledge is power. Know what your options are. Don't be afraid to reach out if you have questions or need help.
Me: So if you were stranded on a deserted island, what 5 things would you HAVE to have with you? Besides your family.
Molly: I don't know! Lots of yummy vegan food. A Wilson volleyball, to play with my husband.
Me: Food and entertainment, what more do you need? What three words would you use to describe yourself as a doula?
Molly: Calming, I'm a type 9, a peacemaker. So relaxed... relaxed. I feel like one of my strengths is diffusing situations. Stepping back, looking at what we can do, and finding a solution.
Me: So important for a doula! Is there anything else you want to add?
Molly: I just want to thank you for the interview!
At this time Molly is still building her online presence, but I will be sure to update this post as she has more ways to connect with her!
For now, you can find her on Instragram @roostbirthservices
"The moment a child is born, a mother is born also"